Resilience is sometimes described as a fixed personality trait, something a person either has or does not, but hope offers a more useful, practical way to think about it: a set of habits, goal setting, flexible planning, belief in one's own capability, that can be built deliberately rather than simply inherited.
Framed this way, a setback becomes less a test of character and more an occasion to apply a specific, learnable skill: naming the obstacle clearly, generating more than one possible response, and choosing the most promising one to try first, then adjusting if it does not work as expected.
This reframing matters most for people who do not consider themselves naturally resilient, since it suggests the relevant skills are learnable rather than fixed at birth, and that consistent, small practice, applied across ordinary setbacks, tends to build the same capacity that some people simply seem to have been born with.